Category: Dating and Relationships
Yeah, so I was having this convo with my cousin today, and the question of if sex geting a guy's interested, keeping him interested and just, keeping him came up. What are your thoughts?
It takes far more than just sex to keep a guy interested no matter how good it is.
My thought hmm the view in this question is shallow and superficial.
Nothing, my dear, not sex, intellect, beauty, babies or even vows will keep a man around if he doesn't want to be kept; The same thing goes for women. Granted, there are lots of money-inspired unions but for the most part, as Goblin said above, it takes more than sex to keep a man interested. I could go on and on using timeless little gems such as "why buy the cow if the milk's free?" but i think you get my drift.
that is all
If sex is the only thing keeping your partner in a relationship, is it a very healthy relationship for either of you?
What Chris said. And on the same line, if your chief response to your sex life is wondering if it will make him stay with you, I don't think he's the only one with an unhealthy outlook in the relationship.
Money can't buy love, but sex sure buys a lot of lust.
Lap it up,
Nem-
That's not the case, but that's what my cuz thinks...I know I don't need that to keep him!
Unfortunately, there are people who will stay in relationships on the basis of sex, or any one single thing that a person has to offer; money, etc. What sense is there in being with a guy who's not going to appreciate you in your entirety?
Sex is very important. An emotional connection is very important. An intellectual repore is very important. In order for a relationship to be successful you must be able to satasfy one another in bed, in conversation and debate and in emotional support and empathy. Physical, emotional and mental compatibility must be there for any relationship to succeed. If one of the three isn't present it can obviously be worked on. For example if you connect in bed and emotionally, but don't have a lot of common interests, IE literature, sports, cuisine, music and art then you can keep your minds open and help one another to try and experience new things to expand your horizons and appreciate each other's different tastes. If you are well-suited emotionally and also intelectually but you have problems in bed you can work on making the sex better or see a sex tharapist. If the sex and the conversation are great and the emotional aspect is suffering you can try couples tharapy, try communicating more about feelings, seek psychological help and work hard at understanding and supporting one another. If any of the two aspects are strong then you can always work on which ever aspect needs the working on. So, is sex important in getting the attention of a partner? Yes. Is sex important in maintaining a relationship, quote unquote keeping a partner or keeping them interested? Yes. Is it everything? Certainly not.
I think that sex sometimes will keep someone interested. If they did love you but just do not anymore, feel they will not get anyone else because of looks or whatever, but love the fucking they will stay.